1. You requested to "go dutch" or let her pay on the first date. Or even used the dreaded "I forget my wallet" excuse. Bottom line: you're done. Never ever ever let a woman pay on the first date --even if she offers. No matter how feminist or independent a woman is, if she offers, she's testing you, even if she doesn't realize it. It's less about the actual money and more about feeling like the guy is making an effort. Also, we find it incredibly sexy when a man takes charge. There's no better way to kill the romance than letting the woman take your masculine energy.
2. You bragged or came off arrogant. Contrary to popular Jersey Shore-like beliefs, women do not like meathead braggarts or arrogant men. There's nothing sexier than humility. Let her find out for herself how wonderful you are. We don't need your testimony.
3. You visibly checked out other women during the date. Hello! How much of a dbag can you be? If you want to get off on the right foot with a woman you're attracted to, don't googly-eye every half-decent looking woman that walks by. Get a clue.
4. You were too touchy feely or tried to move too fast. Don't be creepy. Let a woman figure out if there's even chemistry before you start putting your hand on her leg or trying to make a move. Usually a first date is good for a hug and kiss on the cheek. It's called courting. If you're genuinely interested in her (not a one night stand) she'll appreciate that you didn't try to pull a sleazy move on the first date.
5. You gave out too many gushy compliments. Yes, this sounds strange, you're probably thinking, "But women love compliments!" Yes, women love compliments when they're genuine and she feels comfortable responding to them. If you're constantly gushing out stuff, you'll make her feel awkward and come off contrived and/or desperate.
6. You spent half the time on your cell phone. No, seriously, put that sh*t away. Unless it's an absolute emergency, don't spend time texting and talking on your cell phone. You'll look like a complete ahole.
7. You were rude to the server, complained or gave off negative energy. No one wants to be on a date with Negative Ned or Debbie Downer. If you had a bad day and are in a terrible mood, cancel the date and reschedule. Trust me, we'll understand. Canceling is better than showing up in a bad mood and not putting your best foot forward.
8. You reeked. Like literally. Bad breath, B.O., dog dander, cigarette breath, smelly feet --whatever, it was awful. If you must, have your roommate do a whiff test. Don't eat garlic beforehand, brush your tongue, Listerine --the works. However, don't go overboard with the Sex Panther cologne, that is equally a serious turnoff.
9. You mentioned or bad-mouthed your exes. The last thing we want to hear about is how crazy your ex was and how she stalked you and slashed your tires. This is not baggage claim. We're trying to work with a clean slate here. Besides bad-mouthing anyone is just bad form. Zip it.
10. You brought friends on the date/wanted to meet up with friends. (Ok, this one actually happened to me). Here's the thing, not bringing a friend on a date should be common sense, but it happens. The first date is not the time to have the girl "assessed" by your bestie. And besides, it's just weird. Don't do that. Also, don't drag her to meet your friends just yet. The first date is for getting to know each other and that's difficult to do when you're socializing and meeting others. (This also happened to me.) Another thing, she hasn't had a chance to see how great you are yet. On the first date, she has no attachment to you , other men are fair game. So don't pit yourself up against your single friend who is handsome and witty. You're just asking to get poached!
11. She just wasn't that into you. For whatever reason, she just wasn't feeling it. You were a perfect gentleman, pretty handsome (if you will say so yourself) but somehow she just didn't get it. In that case, there is nothing you can do about it. There's no explanation for lack of chemistry. Sometimes it's just not there. Don't beat yourself up. As Jay-Z says, "On to the next one!"